Comments on: Verbal diarrhoea http://whimsicaljottings.wordpress.com/2009/03/26/verbal-diarrhoea/ My thoughts and my journey through life's sweet path Tue, 15 Dec 2009 12:48:26 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: no name http://whimsicaljottings.wordpress.com/2009/03/26/verbal-diarrhoea/#comment-295 no name Tue, 31 Mar 2009 07:30:49 +0000 http://whimsicaljottings.wordpress.com/?p=539#comment-295 :D :D

]]> By: no name http://whimsicaljottings.wordpress.com/2009/03/26/verbal-diarrhoea/#comment-294 no name Tue, 31 Mar 2009 07:30:17 +0000 http://whimsicaljottings.wordpress.com/?p=539#comment-294 update ur blog la :( so long never update oledi :P update ur blog la :( so long never update oledi :P

]]> By: Amy http://whimsicaljottings.wordpress.com/2009/03/26/verbal-diarrhoea/#comment-293 Amy Mon, 30 Mar 2009 11:43:42 +0000 http://whimsicaljottings.wordpress.com/?p=539#comment-293 Firstly, here's something to perhaps ease the worry for a short time *HUGGGGS* My aunties put their lives on hold for more than 15 years caring for my bedridden grandma. Grandma passed away recently and suddenly they just didnt know what to do with their 'free time' now. My mom once got into a bad mood and blurted out that she didnt know if myself or my brother, will give up our lives to take care of her like my aunties did for grandma. I know she was worried and I sometimes think about it too; whether I could cope. Even though I love my mother to bits, there was that pause in my mind to wonder about it. So don't fret dear, it is normal. We are only human. :) Firstly, here’s something to perhaps ease the worry for a short time *HUGGGGS*

My aunties put their lives on hold for more than 15 years caring for my bedridden grandma. Grandma passed away recently and suddenly they just didnt know what to do with their ‘free time’ now. My mom once got into a bad mood and blurted out that she didnt know if myself or my brother, will give up our lives to take care of her like my aunties did for grandma. I know she was worried and I sometimes think about it too; whether I could cope. Even though I love my mother to bits, there was that pause in my mind to wonder about it. So don’t fret dear, it is normal. We are only human. :)

]]> By: Mei http://whimsicaljottings.wordpress.com/2009/03/26/verbal-diarrhoea/#comment-292 Mei Sat, 28 Mar 2009 23:12:04 +0000 http://whimsicaljottings.wordpress.com/?p=539#comment-292 I think it's perfectly okay to feel the way you do. I can't say I understand but this is something that my dad and I have discussed before. He knows what it's like to be burdened with the responsibility of caring for a dying parent. And so he did tell us that if ever this would happen to him, he just wants to go quickly and save everyone the trouble of being a nuisance. Plus he didn't want to be remembered by loved ones as being a burden. You see... My grandfather had a stroke twice (from the smoking and drinking) and was reduced to being a vegetable - my grandma cared for him for years but she grew resentful; I don't blame her and neither did my dad. Day in, day out, she did everything from feeding him to cleaning up after him - it was like having a baby all over again. So he ended up in a nursing home and my dad, despite being the third out of four siblings, was expected to pay for the bills. And at that time, we weren't exactly swimming in money - me at college, housing loan, car loan, etc, etc. A family friend went through two cases of lung cancer in her family - her dad and later her mother. Her dad held on because he took chemo and all but life with him was...well, she didn't exactly have a great time. She had to quit her job and put up with his mood swings, behaviour, criticism and all that. When he passed away, she was relieved - some people may think that it's cruel for her to think like that but they don't know what it is like for the person suffering from cancer AND his/her family members. When her mum found out that she too had cancer, she opted to not take chemo and passed away quickly although a little bit more painful. Her reason? She wanted to save her daughter the misery of putting up with another cancer-ridden parent. Am sharing this in hopes that you won't be too hard on yourself for feeling the way you do. We are, after all, only human. *bear hugs* <em><strong>WJ: Thanks for the kind words Mabel, am feeling a tad better. Wish I can say the same for dad. Just gotta hang in there I guess. </strong></em> I think it’s perfectly okay to feel the way you do. I can’t say I understand but this is something that my dad and I have discussed before. He knows what it’s like to be burdened with the responsibility of caring for a dying parent. And so he did tell us that if ever this would happen to him, he just wants to go quickly and save everyone the trouble of being a nuisance. Plus he didn’t want to be remembered by loved ones as being a burden.

You see…

My grandfather had a stroke twice (from the smoking and drinking) and was reduced to being a vegetable – my grandma cared for him for years but she grew resentful; I don’t blame her and neither did my dad. Day in, day out, she did everything from feeding him to cleaning up after him – it was like having a baby all over again. So he ended up in a nursing home and my dad, despite being the third out of four siblings, was expected to pay for the bills. And at that time, we weren’t exactly swimming in money – me at college, housing loan, car loan, etc, etc.

A family friend went through two cases of lung cancer in her family – her dad and later her mother. Her dad held on because he took chemo and all but life with him was…well, she didn’t exactly have a great time. She had to quit her job and put up with his mood swings, behaviour, criticism and all that. When he passed away, she was relieved – some people may think that it’s cruel for her to think like that but they don’t know what it is like for the person suffering from cancer AND his/her family members.

When her mum found out that she too had cancer, she opted to not take chemo and passed away quickly although a little bit more painful. Her reason? She wanted to save her daughter the misery of putting up with another cancer-ridden parent.

Am sharing this in hopes that you won’t be too hard on yourself for feeling the way you do. We are, after all, only human.

*bear hugs*

WJ: Thanks for the kind words Mabel, am feeling a tad better. Wish I can say the same for dad. Just gotta hang in there I guess.

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